Well, to keep all you assholes updated as to the goings-on around here, there really isn't too much to report. Although I wonder something. If a girl you like is seeing someone else, is it bad when you're doing everything you can to start a breakup? Morally I would say that is wrong, but when you know, you just know that you and her have more in common than the current shit-stain she's with, and that you would treat her better, wouldn't you be partial to thinking that it would be in her best interest to end that relationship so she might enjoy a better one? That and the fact that the current relationship she is involved in is a so-called "long distance" relationship makes it more and more apparent that things should be ended so that a new relationship can advance. But on the same token, if I could get what I wanted without the breakup or the current boyfriend knowing anything, then what is the harm? Some of these questions may have clear-cut answers, but others are merely rhetorical in nature. I think what I have to ask myself is "is it worth it"? As a good friend once told me, "boyfriends are merely hurdles in the race of relationships". This may sound like bullshit advice, but when you get right down to it, it's really not. If you think of it in a sense that at a certain age many girls think they know what they want, but in actuality they really don't. They have some idea of stability, a career, etc etc. But in essence they have no idea, hence why many girls stick with shitty boyfriends simply because they give them stability if nothing else. While many of us wish for stability and routine in our lives to make us feel comfortable, the more enjoyable notion of change and non-routine is really what we strive to have. For if in a relationship things get boring and routine, there is more of a chance of a breakup than an actual connection and enjoyment in life overall. Myself particularly, at the age that I am at, as well as all the shit that I've gone through in my life; these things have prepared me for a good relationship, all I simply need is the chance. Many ask why I am not attached at the moment, and at times I feel it is as if I have standards that are too high. But on the same token I do not want to settle. When people settle they are unhappy. Life is not about the end of the trip, but it is all about the journey. I know that sounds cliche, but it really is true, and it's taken me the better part of my life to figure that out. Growing up I made many plans, hoping that my life would just follow the mold I had set, but it has not, and I don't know of anyone in which it actually has. But the upside to that is that I have enjoyed my life a lot more. I know that I bitch and complain about a lot of things, but if it wasn't for things always happening in my life, then I would be one hell of a boring person, like many of those that I personally know that I simply unhappy. There are always challenges, and always changes to be made in one's life, but the journey is the more honorable and more enjoyable path to take. I look forward not the end of my life, but to the many things that will happen.
I have a friend who will not talk to girls. Well, let me rephrase that, he is afraid of the ones that he feels are "out of his league". He asks me how I know, and have dated quite a few, of the ones that he thinks are out of my league. I tell him, "life is too short to sit and be a spectator". You never know how a girl is going to respond to you until you go and talk to them. If you never take the chance you'll never know. And honestly, what's the worst thing they will say? No...big fucking deal, life is full of disappointment, and at sometime you need to get over the juvenile aversion to rejection. Sure, not every girl out there is going to like you, but you just never know. For instance, here at Purdue, there are very few gorgeous girls. There are many good-looking ones, but hardly any that really take your breath away. And those that do are usually taken by assholes that have looks but no personality, but these girls don't care because there are generally shallow in nature, and only want to have the "good-looking" couple status. In my opinion that's bullshit. I went down south a few weeks ago and spent a good amount of time in places like the University of Arkansas, University of Georgia, and the University of Alabama. If these girls from Purdue were to spend some time down there, the "gorgeous" ones would realize they are common-place there. The point I'm trying to make is that down there, because there are so many more attractive girls that you see guys who shouldn't have a chance have the most beautiful women on their arms. It's because that they are not hung up on looks, as many are up north, and really understand the importance of happiness in a relationship, rather than the stigma of a pretty couple. I feel that many girls, mainly between the ages of 18-24 need to get their heads out of their ass. The simple fact that girls feel they need to date a man in his upper 20's to early 30's simply because they have more stability is a bullshit reason. They need to think about why those guys are single in the first place. If a man is at that age and is not attached, there is a reason, and it's one that these girls will unfortunately find out, hopefully not too late.